To Everything There is a Season

While the timing, degree and details vary depending on your hemisphere and how near you live to the equator or one of the poles, nature demonstrates an annual cycle of harvest, hibernation, rebirth and profusion.

Within that cycle, of course, variations exist—a short fall, a wet winter, a late spring, a dry summer. But one season always follows the other. The turning of the seasons can offer a haven of predictability in a world that can otherwise seem wildly unpredictable.

By aligning our own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual energy with the prevailing energy of each season, we can infuse our lives with a greater sense of balance, harmony and flow.

To Everything There is a SeasonAs you read the suggestions below, remember that each of us is a unique cocreation of the Universe. As such, what works for one person might not work for another. Leverage these ideas to help you connect with the approaches that will best suit your personality, temperament and passions. If a particular suggestion won’t work for you, what other seasonally inspired activity just might?

Fall

The fall offers us golden rich colors and crisp, cool air. There’s a feeling of transition and that “back to school” energy we never outgrow. A new school year keeps whole families busy. The harvest of fruit and vegetables is in full swing.

Some activities that align with fall:

  • Look back over the year and consider your “harvest” of possibilities for joy. Are you satisfied with its size and quality? What might you do to improve it for next year? Did you spend enough time with loved ones? Would you have appreciated more vacation time? Did you get enough rest? Did you have plenty of fun?
  • As you gather and assess this year’s harvest, are there any last-minute tweaks you can make that will improve your yield of delight?

Winter

Winter brings frigid air, frosted glass and, in some areas, a white blanket of snow. Many plants and some animals slip into hibernation and get ready for their springtime rebirth. Wintertime sports and holidays distract us from the chilly temperatures and cold weather drama.

Some activities that align with winter:

  • Ask yourself what within you is waiting to be born. Let yourself imagine that birth taking place. Write out what you picture and squirrel it away for percolation in a secret place. Then watch the Universe begin the unfolding of your heart’s desire.
  • Consider what is “hibernating” in your life personally and professionally. Is that productive pause nearing completion? What expectations do you have for that new birth?

Spring

In spring, everything is glistening, green and new. There is a feeling of expansion, and a sense of renewal and reawakening. Seeds start to grow. People get outside more, becoming reacquainted with their gardens and hiking trails. We take on spring-cleaning and clear out clutter.

Some activities that align with spring:

  • What have you always longed to do? Perhaps you want to write a book, rescue a dog, teach a class, foster a child, learn another language, adopt a cat or support a charity. Let this be the year you take action on your dream.
  • Notice, as well, if the seeds you’ve already planted are starting to sprout. Tend them carefully, giving them ample time to grow.

Summer

In summer, the landscape is lush and colorful with fruits and flowers. The air is warm and growth is everywhere. Summertime offers opportunities for adventures, camping and exploring. We’re also busy in our gardens, working hard to ensure a good harvest. Longer days lend a feeling of abundance.

Some activities that align with summer:

  • Use the increased daylight hours to tackle home improvement and other projects. Enlist the help of willing partners or children for a team win.
  • Think about what you’re about to harvest in your life personally and professionally. Are you ready for it? What else can you do to support your own abundance?

By tailoring your activities to the natural rhythms of the seasons, you might just find that your life and work are likewise supported to deepen, grow and prosper.

Author’s content adapted under license, © 2009 Claire Communications

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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NEW BOOK Filled with Tips that Help Entrepreneurs Thrive!

According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics, the longer a company has been in business, the more likely it is to stay in business. It’s those first few years that are the hardest.

The Bureau’s data reveals that, regardless of industry focus, about two-thirds of all new businesses remain solvent for the first two years, half make it to five years and one-third celebrate their tenth anniversary.

What factors separate those that thrive from those that don’t survive? One difference is that many successful business owners hire professional coaches to support their growth—personally and professionally.

Many have found that their inability to grow their businesses was actually born of personal growth stagnation. Because how you do anything often becomes how you do everything, when you get stuck personally, it is often followed by getting stuck professionally as well.

So what are some of the success strategies
coaches share with such entrepreneurs?

As a member of the Board of Advisors for
The International Association of
Professional Life Coaches (IAPLC)

I am honored to serve as one of
ten expert coach co-authors
who share their perspectives on the
keys to entrepreneurial success
in the association’s brand new book

Coaching for Entrepreneurs:
How Life Coaching Can Help
Entrepreneurs Improve Their Bottom Line

Each of my colleague co-authors and I have written chapters on how coaching helps entrepreneurs. The chapters include examples of specific coaching tools and techniques through which the authors have consistently helped their clients achieve breakthroughs and transformations leading to increased business success and personal fulfillment.

Coaching For Entrepreneurs by IAPLC Members

The topics comprise

  1. 10 Reasons Why Entrepreneurs Need Coaching by Jeannette Koczela
  2. Coaches Help Entrepreneurs Improve Their Bottom Line by Don L. Morgan, PhD
  3. Mastering the Inner You for Kick-ass Business Success by Tresa Leftenant CFP®
  4. Growing with your Business by Boni Oian
  5. Leveraging Your Most Valuable Asset: Your Personal Board of Directors by Deborah Jane Wells
  6. Moving Forward On Your Terms by Ida Crawford
  7. Starting Your Own Business on a Shoestring Budget: How a Coach Can Make a Difference by Davida Shensky
  8. The NLP Coaching For Addictions Program by Janice Walton
  9. The Power of Clarity—7 Steps to Transforming Your Business into a Profit Center by E.G. Sebastian
  10. Communicating Brilliantly: Unleash Your Entrepreneurial Potential by Katherine Hartvickson

Learn how coaching can enhance your sense of fulfillment by helping you meet challenges, overcome obstacles, leverage opportunities and grow your business more efficiently and effectively.

Early Bird Discount

Modeling one of the many techniques we teach, on launch day September 22nd, from 12 noon to 1 pm US Eastern time, we are offering the book at 50% off the full retail price of $15.95. This proven practice helps prime the sales pump and increase early buzz.

This dramatic price reduction will be available for one hour only on launch day. Set an automatic task alert for September 22nd to remind you to click the link below between 12 noon and 1 pm and get your copy at a great discount.

http://iaplifecoaches.org/book-2016

Ready to release yourself from the self-imposed limits fear, stress and pain have been placing on your life?

Time to Get Off That Hamster Wheel!

This book can help you get unstuck, reclaim your power and recapture your zest for living—moving yourself forward into a life you love personally and professionally.

Time to get off that hamster wheel
and step into your greatness.

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Microcosmic and Macrocosmic Aspects of Peace

by Guest Blogger, Sam Red

In the midst of the innumerable, intractable global conflicts of today and the existence of nuclear weapons capable of destroying the world many times over, it is arguable that world governance can no longer be left solely to political decision-makers. At a microcosmic level, each and every aware individual can begin to assume greater responsibility for the state of the world by taking up the challenge of embodying the peace (microcosm) that he/she hopes to see mirrored in the world community (macrocosm). In order to embrace peace, it is helpful to understand some of the underlying reasons for the manifestation of its antithesis i.e. violence. Why do individuals resort to violence?

Individual acts of physical violence can be considered a response to physical, emotional, mental and/or spiritual disharmony. For example: a difficult childhood can lead to feelings of frustration and aggression in an adult human being, who then uses violence as a mental-emotional outlet; the resort to violence could also be an action taken to protect physical basic needs such as safety and access to food; or on a spiritual level, historical antecedents such as the fact that a distant past has been characterised by war could hold violence in the collective subconscious, making it the line of least resistance. Moreover, direct aggression can have its cause in more than one instigating factor.

In full recognition of the huge challenges faced by the human race as a whole (macrocosm) and by some individual men and women (microcosm), a culture of peace would nevertheless reject direct violence as a means of resolving conflict and would instead require that countries and citizens of those countries use conflict transformation skills that deal comprehensively with the root causes of physical aggression. This rejection of the use of violence would be based on a respect for the One Life that we are all a part of.

An inherent respect for all manifestations of Life is more easily achievable if human beings can extend their range of identifications i.e. each individual has the responsibility as a member of the human family to find ways of expressing right human relations within his/her own being, family unit, local, national and global community, as well as in relation to the natural environment.

This expanded identification could be instrumental in building a culture of peace as defined by Professor Emerita, Elise Boulding, “A mosaic of identities, attitudes, values, beliefs, and institutional patterns that lead people to live nurturantly with one another, deal with their differences, share their resources, solve their problems, and give each other space so no one is harmed and everyone’s basic needs are met.”[1]

Peace is a living concept and men and women’s understanding of what constitutes peace, and what is comprised by its antithesis i.e. violence, is evolving as the human race itself evolves.

Violence is more than direct aggression; there are also structural and cultural dimensions to violence like poverty, unemployment (structural), censorship and sexual discrimination (cultural). If governments, educators, the media and every aware individual were to label these additional categories of violence as such, more men and women would come to understand how far we still are from creating a culture of peace and how important it is to create new structures, or to reform the existing ones, in order to guarantee a more peaceful future for the present world community and future generations.

Culture of Violence

Present day societies, particularly in so-called “developed” states, are characterised by a vast network of information technology, which has brought people into vivid contact with the day-to-day reality of life in almost every corner of the globe. This fact together with the high value placed on intelligence, that is the ability to think and reason, is giving greater prominence to the issues of morality and ethics in human attitudes and behaviour, be this is at the macrocosmic level in such fields as politics and trade, or on a community and individual basis. Therefore, the concept of peace can no longer be understood simply as the absence of war, but rather needs to be seen as the transformation of violence on all four of its levels.

One comprehensive definition of the concept of peace was identified by Fischer, Nolte & Oeberg in their book “Winning Peace”[2]:

“(…) all that aims to develop security and secure development of the whole human being, and all human beings, in a permanent process, taking its point of departure in a model of human and social needs based on an ethics of global care and allowing for unity in diversity.”

The phrase “an ethics of global care” is an important reminder that peace is measured not only by human-human relations, but by the quality of human-nature relationships too, namely humanity’s interactions with the animal, vegetable and mineral kingdoms. Humankind’s desire to dominate the environment with scant regard for the consequences has led to a growing scarcity of natural resources, pollution of the Earth’s waterways, sickness in animals necessitating mass killings, worrying changes in climatic conditions and devastating natural catastrophes, etc. To counteract this negative trend, human beings – at the macro and micro level – have the choice to assume their role as conscious and dedicated guardians of the animal, vegetable and mineral kingdoms; rather than to continue using violence and domination to master the Earth, jeopardising the world heritage of future generations.

The road to peace has been mapped out for humanity by some of its forerunners. For example, historically, the Buddha indicated  one possible road to peace through the eight-fold path of right view, right thinking, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right diligence, right mindfulness and right concentration. These principals have stood the test of time and are as valid today as they were 2000 years ago.

Active individual participation in the promotion of social justice and political decision-making, without the use of violence, in a spirit of tolerance and goodwill, was strongly advocated by Gandhi in the 1900s. He promoted such important concepts as:

  • Ahimsa – non-injury through the renunciation of physical and mental violence against one’s self, others, animals and nature;
  • Advaita – the interconnectivity of all life forms;
  • Tapasya – the willingness to suffer rather than inflict pain on others;
  • Sarvodaya – everyone’s basis needs must be met even if that means that some people must give something up so that others are not left out;
  • Satyagraha – the pursuit of Truth through non-violent action.

A modern-day approach to responsible and peaceful human relations can be seen in Marshall Rosenberg’s system of Non-violent Communication. This method recognises the interconnectivity of Life and the common human condition, and emphasises the importance of the appropriate use of language in the transformation of conflict. Rosenberg encourages men and women to connect compassionately with themselves and with others in order to resolve differences peacefully and constructively.

The three above-mentioned examples of roads to peace have in common the fact that, as well as dynamic action, they also promote the importance of inner reflection. This inner reflection on the part of the individual or group (state, nation, community, religion, etc.) can unveil underlying unconscious prejudices, or misplaced preconceptions, which might be fuelling the conflicts manifesting on the surface. Carl Jung made an important contribution to research in this area through his work on projections, that is, people’s propensity to see in others what needs healing in themselves. Jung discovered that when people make a criticism or judgement, they are often unconsciously seeing their own faults mirrored in the other party. This provides an interesting angle from which to consider the concept of a common human identity and the interconnectivity of Life. It also highlights the importance of self-awareness and individual responsibility in the realisation of peaceful human relations. A greater degree of self-awareness could unveil to a person the spectacles through which he/she is looking at the world, that is, the particular influence that cultural background, experiences in life and individual personality traits are having on his/her perception of events.

[1] Prof Emerita, Elise Boulding, interview with Peace Work, January 1996, Cambridge, USA.

[2] “Winning Peace”, Fisher, Nolte & Oeberg, Crane Russak, 1989.

Extracted from MA thesis
“A Shared Human Identity – the Foundation of a Peace Culture”
© Copyright 2016 Sam Red. All rights reserved.

About the Author
Sam Red

Sam Red, Author

With an MA in Peace and Conflict Studies, Sam Red has over 16 years of experience in communications and public information work, as well as in designing and teaching tailored capacity building courses.

Having spent six years working as a communications consultant to the United Nations, European Union and NGOs in the Middle East, she is presently based in Basel, Switzerland, where she worked for three years as the Study Director of a postgraduate peace studies programme before resuming her work as a consultant. Her clients currently include international organisations and the United Nations in Geneva, as well as aid coordination mechanisms in Palestine and Libya.

Beyond her professional work, Sam has been interested in self-development and spiritual topics since she had an existential crisis in her late 20s. Over the years, her search for spiritual truth and existential meaning has brought her in contact with Taoism, Reiki, Phytobiophysics, the Arcane School, Tantra and most recently the work of Dr Joe Dispenza.

Sam has written three books on self-development and spiritual issues:

Her aim is to empower people by helping them to understand themselves better on all 4 levels of consciousness—physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.

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Got Happiness?

This is the final installment in the 27-post series concerning the principles, mechanics, power and benefits of Energy Leadership as shared by Bruce D. Schneider—founder of the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)— in his book Energy Leadership: Transforming Your Workplace and Your Life from the Core.

In the previous post, we examined the first of 10 keys to practicing happiness that Bruce shares in his interview “How to Be Unreasonably Happy” (click here to listen to the entire interview).

Today, we consider Bruce’s fourth key to happiness—appreciating variety and anticipation.

For many people, variety is truly the spice of life. Those who complain of boredom often do so because their life lacks variety. Changing your life, even slightly, can go a long way to making you happier. Because change is inevitable, life is change. Knowing how to make change work for you is a valuable key to happiness. Sign up for a class, explore new interests, meet new people and pursue your passion. Set a goal and make it happen!

Happiness is often linked to the ability to “be in the moment.” While worrying tends to generate unhappiness, eager anticipation can be a happiness booster, even though it would appear to be the antithesis of being fully here now.

Got Happiness?

The anticipation of a future enjoyable event produces expansive anabolic thoughts and feelings—just knowing something exciting is going to happen in the future can help us experience more happiness from now until then. Oddly enough, the anticipation can be more enjoyable than the actual event. Our happiness can be boosted by things we look forward to—events or accomplishments—due to the joy we experience by anticipating them in advance.

Alas, worry about a future event works in a similar fashion, albeit in reverse. Worry produces catabolic thoughts and feelings, generating misery in the interim, even if the dreaded outcome never comes to pass. When you worry, you also experience anticipation in the present moment—but that catabolic anticipation is distracting, draining and debilitating. How much happier might you be if you just let go of worry?

Here’s a bonus insight—you can ruin eager anticipation for yourself too if you put your mind to it. The key is not to become too wedded to hard and fast expectations as to how the happy future event will unfold. When you harbor lofty and exact expectations, your happiness becomes attached to a specific outcome.

Then, even if the future event brings considerable benefits, because it didn’t show up in the exact time and way you expected, you can make yourself miserable by choosing to perceive it as a disappointment or failure rather than a great blessing. Gratefully anticipating what is to come, while letting go of expectations concerning precisely how it will manifest, allows you to be joyful in the here and now while anabolically anticipating the future.

By trying new things and looking forward, without judgment or expectation, to what is to come, you too can be unreasonably happy in every moment. It’s up to you. Your perception is the grand architect of your reality. You always get to design your own experience by whatever you choose to think or feel about what’s going on. Choose your energy: change your life!

Eager to become a more conscious grand architect for your own life?  Sign up below for a 60-minute complimentary coaching session.

Web copy used by permission. No reproduction or retransmission is permitted without expressed written consent of Bruce D Schneider and the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). ©2006-2016 Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

© Copyright 2016 DJW Life Coach LLC. All rights reserved.
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The Pursuit of Happiness

With today’s post, we continue on our journey to Energy Leadership with an exploration of the pursuit of happiness. Many of us strive for happiness and feel we deserve it. In the United States Declaration of Independence, author Thomas Jefferson posits “certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.”

What does it mean to pursue happiness? When we think of pursuing something, we usually mean that we’re going after something we don’t already have. In Marci Shimoff’s book, Happy for No Reason, she points out that in Jefferson’s time, “to pursue something meant to practice that activity, to do it regularly, to make a habit of it.” There’s a huge difference between chasing happiness and practicing happiness. When we chase after happiness, we’re coming from a perspective of lack—we don’t have the thing that we want. But when we practice happiness, we’re active participants in making ourselves even happier.

So how can we practice happiness? For 10 key practices, click here to listen to “How to Be Unreasonably Happy,” an interview with Bruce D. Schneider, author of Energy Leadership and founder of the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC).

The Pursuit of HappinessThe first key is to know that you can weather your moods. Like the weather, your moods are always changing. Recognizing and accepting your moods and knowing that they will change is essential to being able to practice happiness.

If you realize this, then when you are up, you can fully appreciate the “up” times while they last, recognizing they’re not meant to last forever. (In fact, if it lasted forever, it would lose its meaning because up is only up if there’s a down to compare it to.

The same is true of the “down” times. You know they won’t last forever and, because everything is an opportunity, you are able to embrace and weather the perceived difficulties, knowing they offer the great gifts of deeper insight and personal growth. One of the great opportunities is to deepen your ability—whatever the circumstances— to demonstrate unconditional love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude for yourself, every being, encounter and situation.

Next time you’re having a great or not so great day, appreciate that day for what it is, know that it won’t last and rejoice that each day moves you forward in the pursuit of happiness on your own personal journey to wholeness.

Looking for a partner and guide on the journey? Sign up below for a 60-minute complimentary coaching session.

Web copy used by permission. No reproduction or retransmission is permitted without expressed written consent of Bruce D Schneider and the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). ©2006-2016 Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

© Copyright 2016 DJW Life Coach LLC. All rights reserved.
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Forgiving Yourself

The previous post discussed how in forgiving others you choose to release the catabolic energy of hurt, anger and blame in favor of the anabolic energy of forgiveness in order to liberate yourself and move forward. If you read the post, you may have wondered why I didn’t mention the role and benefits of forgiving yourself for perceived errors and omissions as well.

Self-forgiveness is an infinitely more difficult, involved and potentially rewarding process, so it merits its own dedicated post.

So many of us repeatedly beat ourselves up over everything. I should have done this differently or better, I shouldn’t have done that at all, I shouldn’t have said what I did, I should have expressed what I really felt. If only I were a better person (mother, father, spouse, sibling, friend, coworker, boss), I’d have reacted differently. If only I had studied harder, if only I had cared more, if only I had cared less. Why didn’t I take a stand, why didn’t I reach out to a friend? Whatever your particular spin and phrasing, this form of endless self-castigation is fed by fear-fueled, destructive catabolic energy that keeps you stuck and holds you back.

Forgiving Yourself

As hard as it can be to demonstrate compassion and grace toward others, it can be even harder—seemingly impossible—to extend to ourselves.

Worn down by a relentless inner critic that finds fault with everything we think, say and do, it’s no wonder we get stuck. It’s tough to forgive yourself—let alone foster the mindfulness, imagination, discernment and discipline to make any desired changes in yourself and your life—if, at your core, you believe you’re never good enough and you don’t matter. Breaking free begins with self-forgiveness grounded in an understanding that you are good enough and you do matter.

You are a unique cocreative expression of the Divine. How could that ever not be enough?

In fact, according to Bruce D. Schneider, author of Energy Leadership and founder of the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), YOU’RE ALREADY PERFECT. In his book, Relax, You’re Already Perfect, Bruce defines perfection as “unique unto itself.” Although you sometimes think, say or do things you wish you hadn’t, the endless assault of hypercritical head chatter isn’t helping you change for the better and grow, it’s keeping you stuck and holding you back.

The key is to let go of the judgmental catabolic energy of condemnation and embrace the expansive anabolic energy of self-forgiveness.

Recognize that your current approach to life isn’t aligning with your values, desires and priorities, figure out what’s not working and make the necessary adjustments. Demonstrate unconditional self-love, respect, curiosity, compassion and gratitude for the complexity of human experience, take responsibility, commit to showing up differently, make amends and move forward. Break the cycle of self-blame. When you notice aspects of yourself or your journey that feel less than optimal, CELEBRATE all the continued opportunities for growth.

Congratulations, you’re not done yet!

In the words of Saint Francis de Sales, Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them—every day begin the task anew.”

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“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

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“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

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The Freedom of Forgiveness

Our exploration of the principles shared by Bruce D. Schneider in his book, Energy Leadership, continues with the topic of forgiveness. Many people have difficulty forgiving others because they mistakenly believe that, in forgiving, they are condoning—and potentially encouraging the repetition of—a particular act or behavior. The primary dictionary definition of forgiveness is “to excuse for a fault or an offense; pardon.” The Energy Leadership perspective on forgiveness goes deeper—forgiveness involves releasing the self-destructive catabolic energy of judgment and blame so that you can move forward. In this definition, the concepts of “wrong” or “right” fade as we recognize that whatever we are aren’t forgiving is imprisoning and holding us back.

The Freedom of Forgiveness

Forgiveness isn’t about saying what the other person did was fine and didn’t hurt. It’s about detaching from inviting the event to continue to have any negative hold over you. When you forgive, you detach from the destructive impact that fanning the catabolic flames of blame has on you by embracing the anabolic energy of forgiveness to liberate and empower yourself instead.

Forgiveness is a superpower. One of the biggest shifts you can make to remove catabolic energy from your life is to forgive others. In the seven levels of energy described in his book, Bruce identifies Level 3 as the one at which your energetic balance shifts from predominantly fear-fueled, constricting, restricting, destructive catabolic energy to a preponderance of love-fueled, expanding, empowering, constructive anabolic energy. The key emotion associated with that shift at Level 3 is forgiveness. You make that uplifting shift every time you forgive those you feel have wronged you in some way.

At first glance, forgiving someone else can seem like an impossible task. If you are like many, when you believe the other person did something wrong, didn’t show you respect, undermined you, hurt you or violated one of your core values, your first reaction is to feel hurt, upset, angry or resentful. You blame them and maybe even crave revenge. Think of a situation in your life, current or past, where someone did something that you haven’t forgiven. How do you still feel when you think about it? Sit with those emotions for a moment, fully embracing them and noticing how they feel in your body, mind, heart and soul. Then read on.

Dwelling on that past unforgiven offense probably didn’t cause you to feel loved, encouraged, peaceful, relaxed and calm. Every time you rehash painful past experiences, you are choosing to re-injure yourself by generating the same toxic cortisol stress cocktail in your system that you originally fostered during your chosen reaction to the initial experience. Holding onto anger and resentment hurts you much more than it can ever hurt the other person.

Harnessing catabolic energy to lash out at the offender may temporarily restore a false sense of power. But that “good feeling” will quickly fade as the poisonous catabolic energy you are harboring inside you continues to eat away at you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually—blocking you from having the life you really want and being the person you want to be.

One of my favorite forgiveness quotes comes from St. Augustine, “Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.” By not forgiving, you are only hurting yourself. If you spend most of your energetic resources on blame and anger, you’ll have little left to invest in more constructive, life affirming engagement. By not forgiving, the hurt to yourself goes on and on.

How can you release those feelings? Take responsibility for what you are thinking and feeling and realize that you have the power to make things better for yourself. As Bruce D. Schneider is fond of saying, “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” Give yourself one of the greatest gifts–choose to forgive others. Realize that in order for you to feel like a winner, someone else doesn’t have to lose. Remember that others are always doing the best they can in each moment with the love and light they have concerning the circumstances they are facing.

Look for the gift and opportunity in whatever’s happened. Change your perspective. Think of forgiving in a different way and thank the other person for giving you an experience that you are going to use to help you learn and grow.

Choose your energy: change your life!

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Web copy used by permission. No reproduction or retransmission is permitted without expressed written consent of Bruce D Schneider and the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). ©2006-2016 Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

 

FREE Coaching Opportunity
($250 VALUE)

If someone offered you a precious gift for an hour of your time, would you be interested? That’s what I offer with a Complimentary Coaching Session. A comp session isn’t a brief demo or sample. It’s a full 45-minute coaching session focused on current real life challenges of your choosing plus 15 minutes to discuss your experience and any questions you may have about my approach to coaching.

There is no expectation or pressure to hire me as your ongoing coach. Providing meaningful, substantive comp sessions with no obligation is one of the ways I demonstrate gratitude and give back to the Universe a small portion of the abundance and opportunity it bestows on me daily.

The real value of a comp session? PRICELESS! 

Those who have experienced comp sessions will tell you, when you come to your session open to the possibilities for transformation and fully committed to your own growth, big breakthroughs can happen!

FREE Coaching Session

What clients say about
the power of coaching with Deborah 

“I knew Deborah before she became a Professional Life Coach. I’ve been amazed at how she has changed her life. When I decided it was time to begin making decisions about the next phase of my life, I knew immediately that Deborah was the person I wanted to work with. Her personal and professional experiences help her guide clients through coaching in a way that is individualized and delightfully eye-opening. Her warmth and sensitivity are immediately apparent, even over the phone. With gentle encouragement and permission, she will guide you through an examination of your life, including difficult experiences. She will help you gain insight from your past choices and then explore possibilities for moving forward in less encumbered ways. When you work with Deborah, your life will take on new meaning and your potential will be limitless!” Chris

“The work I did with Deborah continues to change my life. While I have learned many valuable lessons from her, the greatest was the deep insight that is available to me when I listen to and learn from my own inner wisdom. Her intuition, discernment and encouragement have taught me to trust my own intuition—creating new paths and possibilities for my life. One of Deborah’s great gifts is helping others respect and connect with their inner guidance and through that connection, to form a deeper, more meaningful bond with the collective wisdom and energy of all.” Ryan

Click here to sign up for a 60-minute
complimentary coaching session with Deborah.

 

What readers say about
the impact of Deborah’s book

“With the same energy and determination she applied in the professional world, Deborah has taken her considerable expertise in human potential and has now set her sights on the largest co-op in the world, humanity. ‘Choose Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ tackles what I believe are the most important questions we each must ask: who am I, where did I come from, why am I here, and what’s love got to do with it (cue Tina Turner)? These are not trivial or philosophical questions for the answers change what we do, why we do it, who and what we love. I am grateful for the opportunity to walk with Deborah on this critical journey.” JD Messenger, Award Winning Author of “11 Days in May: The Conversation That Will Change Your Life”

“To me the great thing about Deborah’s book is how ‘accessible’ she makes the ideas. The Oxygen Mask is probably the single best example. As with so many of the ideas in the book, she explains the principle in such a simple way that it’s got universal application to virtually any reader. I can imagine people having multiple moments of ‘Oh….I get it!’ throughout the book. The stories from her own life as well as stories of her clients’ experiences become stories about all of us—stories about which the reader will think, ‘I am living my own version of this.’ Well done—bravo!” Joe Calloway, Author of “Be The Best At What Matters Most”

Click here to explore Deborah’s book.

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